One of the things which this pandemic/quarantine/end of the world scenario has done, which I think is actually much to the good, is the reflection, the blessings counting, that’s been happening.
For me, and with a specific purpose in mind, much reflexion has happened because I am finally sorting through a raft of photos I have been sitting on for nearly 20 years. These are pictures “rescued” at a time of upheaval for my family and just put away for some other time, when there was time. Besides those photos, of course, I have my own. So many of them!! I had no idea we were such prolific picture takers, but it’s been joyful to look at them, remember the people, the time. Even when it’s been a little sad, because some of the people have been lost, the warmth in my heart is real.
How does the generation that doesn’t know photographic prints ‘get’ the sheer pleasure of pictures one enjoys leafing through albums, or finds rooting around in old shoe boxes? I snap moments on my smart phone all the time, of course, but holding a print… There is a bit of magic in that that just doesn’t come across a fingerprint begrimed, handheld screen.
Many of my photos are based on place, or rather, one place. The Cottage. Which is actually two cottages and a pop-up tent trailer. My family has owned land along a lake shoreline since the turn of the last century. The first cottage my Great Aunt owned has long-since passed into another family’s hands, but my grandfather wisely bought some land up the shoreline from her during WWII, and four successive generations since have been loving that spot with all our hearts.
For a couple of my siblings, that love makes do as a memory of glorious days past, while for a couple of us it’s those lovely days when we have the time to travel there and immerse ourselves in water, sun, and memories we make and re-live. For my two youngest brothers however, and their families, being at The Cottage is what the summer season, which runs from May to October, means.
So I have been looking at the photos of The Cottage, and the first cottage where we were children down the bay from the one on the point. Pictures of grandparents, parents, uncles, cousins, friends, and us. I have been remembering the moments, the activities, the sun and wind, the smell, the food and laughter.
I do not feel quarantined when holding these photos, these memories. Social distancing is not in that moment. The border between where I live and where my heart is has opened so I may come home again.
Other photos have much the same effect, of course. There are many pictures of the loved children of dear friends, children at play or in Hallowe’en costumes or showing off silly faces covered in chocolate or sauces. Children who now share photos of their children with chocolate on their faces, and I am left wondering how time actually works to have wrought such changes.
I love re-living a few adventures with my husband, who has always been a wonderful companion on all journeys, quarantined or not. I have been chuckling at pictures of people met during our first week of married life in Florida and with whom I share friendship today, and further photos of friends made at all the stops on our marriage journey across 4 states, two countries and 18 homes, telling myself the stories that make up our share experiences. And I am finding the one-of moments, barely remembered but suddenly brought back to life in my mind, especially sweet to consider.
All of this has been part of creating photo albums for my siblings and my uncle. I want them to re-live, to savour, to quietly celebrate those people, places, and events of our shared life. I am hoping to ship the albums off in early November, with the hope they will arrive for Christmas. Given the US Post Office right now.. who knows.
These are my memories, but theirs as well. This is my life, and a little part of theirs as well. This is how we can socially distance but be together. It’s made the end-of-the-world less end-ish.